Oh My GOOD

I'm fighting to grab a bite from my plate today. It's not because I don’t want to eat, nor the dish is bad. It's a personal battle with depression and mental strain. I don't write this as an excuse. I write it for the people who are battling the same things. I know that I’m not alone nor weak, nor a quitter. Bad things ensure that good is around and remember you’ll make it.

A bullet can only be fired by pulling the trigger backwards. Similarly, when life drags you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to shoot you up into something wonderful. So, we all have to learn keep pushing through setbacks. There are things we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.

Faced this recently that it’s not easy to accept at times & still have a sad heart, but looking forward and holding my head up.

Learned this recently that I can't let the changes in life keep us down or look back with regret, but keep the good memories close to your heart and any thought that doesn't make you smile leave behind.

Nothing whatever, whether great or small, can happen to us, without anyone's ordering and permission. There is no such thing as ‘chance’, ‘luck’ or ‘accident’ in the life’s journey through this world. And all things are ‘working together’ if we believe in ourselves.

In the end, I am so happy & grateful that the river of life keeps on flowing. It flows right through me into extravagant expression. Never ending good now comes to me in endless ways.

Cheers to life!

Finding Remedy. Not Fault.

Hi Netizens

You must have read many articles till date on various universal topics of your interest. Today I am going to share my experience and learning as a Social Media Analyst to Campaign Lead at OMLogic.

The basic need for this was having a leadership quality in me but there is a famous saying.

'Leaders aren't born they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that's the price we'll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal'. - Vince Lombardi

This indirectly or directly reflected my story. Initially I started with a zero but through a span of 30 months I grew everyday slowly and steadily and groomed myself into the person I wanted to be or ambitioned to be. Leadership is not just limited to business, government and other services based societies or organizations. Ultimately it’s about being a leader to ourselves that we can lead others, for with one, we can understand the needs of other people. Leadership and management in a reductionist sense ultimately is about one thing: satisfactory completion of a task and that too as quickly as possible along with making the experience better. Analyze your own strengths and weaknesses in order to explore what leadership is. In business this is often done in SWOT analysis, known as Strengths, Weakness, Opportunities and Threats. Be natural and be Humane in practise and analysis. We should learn from our failures and if possible then from others failures also and train our followers so that they do not repeat the same mistakes at least.

'The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not  bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humour, but without folly'.― Jim Rohn

The most important quality that a leader must possess is having faith in their colleagues and employees. Then only people will trust you and when people trust you they are more willing to give their best, as they know that they always get your best. People want to be assured that their trust, followed closely by their respect is being placed in safe place and that they are indeed wise to follow where you lead.

When something goes wrong, great leaders step up and acknowledge their part in it, and don’t fall into the trap of trying to shift blame elsewhere. They’ll focus on fixing the problem not fixing blame. High performances leaders fix problem, find solutions, and don’t fix blame.

'A good leader is a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit'. - John C. Maxwell

Also there is one more fundamental that a good leader must keep in mind always. Good leaders make it easy for their people to interact with them and regularly make use of their talents and strengths for the benefit of the organization. They have to be passionate always to keep others also compelled to work by.

If you are the leader in charge, you have the authority to make the decision, but also the responsibility to do so and take the consequences. Authority and responsibly go hand in hand. I had also gone through this phase of utmost pressure during my journey with a feeling of having authority but no powers in hand and acting like a puppet but due to the moral support of my dear colleagues I was able to go through it also. Meetings and the team discussions are the most important part of any organizations smooth working as it provides a platform where a leader through the body language of a person can judge when people are stirring trouble, wasting time or thinking about things that are not practical and like a poker player in order to keep confidence.

Out of all my small experiences the basic conclusion that I derive is that if all the members of a society understand the basic thing that ‘United we stand and Divide we fall’ and help each other in meeting deadlines along with completing their work beautifully on time that too perfectly then no one can stop an organization to reach zenith.

- Rohit Rajpal

You're here for a reason.

I've never imagined that I will be writing such stuff but this is the power of LOVE… power of SACRIFICE.

Sacrifice is needed for love to exist. It eventually makes a relationship between people easier. In all relationships at one point a sacrifice is made. Sometimes it is a very small sacrifice such as changing a schedule other times sacrifice is so great you must give up your loved one knowing that it will hurt you greatly, but in the end make the other person happy. I myself have made this kind of sacrifice & witnessed people sacrificing for love, family and friends. I have also seen sacrifice in the movies and books. It's something that moves people when they witness it and makes them think. In all societies this theme is found in literature, movies and music.

What is love?  Have you ever taken the time to let your mind wonder about love?  Love can be painful, love can be sad, but more than anything love should bring happiness.  When you love someone, whether you make them mad, upset, cry or hurt them, true love will never be able to be replaced.  Love is sacrifice. Have you ever thought about falling in love?  Have you ever thought about what it means to be in love, and then suddenly you are faced with crashing waves of emotions and discover that the sun is sometimes burning.  Lately, that is what I have been dealing with.  Lately, that is what has been tearing me up inside.  No one has ever said that love was going to be easy, but we give up on love a lot of times.  We go looking elsewhere.   Sometimes you have those who are quite content with being seconds.  You have those who like to run their mouths not knowing what to keep to themselves, and then sometimes you have those who will laugh and talk in your face and make sarcastic comments every time you come around.  Love is greater than any thought, idea, or conception of meaning, yet it is the reason why we have thoughts and why meanings are sought.  Love is the one key that can unlock all things.  It can reveal the deepest mystery, and it will soften the hardest hearts.  It places a heart of heaven in you.  It reveals itself through the art of giving and the sharing of one’s feelings.  Love is a GIFT.  A gift that should not be played or toyed with.  Frankly I am writing this to let the world know that I am in Love.  Love has been painful to me.  I was even at the point where I attempted to take my own life.  No one ever knew, and no one ever suspected until the day it happened.  I appeared to be happy to outsiders, but I was hurting inside.  That is when I really found out who my true friends were.  I can say today, I only have three whom I trust completely and believe that their snide comments are just for fun.  I am here for a reason today.  That reason, God has not shown me yet.  My life, due to love, has been a constant battle but I will not give up on it.  This is the second time I have let myself fall in love, and this time caught me by surprise.  This is indeed it for me.  If it so happens that things work themselves out, I will be the happiest guy in the world.  I have learned from my mistakes and the mistakes I made I want make them again (It reminds me of the song 'Treading Water').  I can honestly say, through all problems, where there is a will there is a way.  To the one I am in love with, I have selected the path you made me understand to walk on & waiting for you to choose. The day we met it was like a dream, our eyes locked and our souls beamed.  You gave me new hope, showed me what love really means.  I love to see the sparkling smile on your face and your emerald eyes gleam as a new morning’s sunrise.  Each time I see you, my heart skips a beat.  I accept you for who you are, not who you may have tried to be.  Yes, we have had our problems, but through it all we have been able to remain friends.  At one point, the sight of you made me feel like I was on top of the world, then things fall down and the sight of you brought me to tears.  Through all the pain, the problems, the struggles, the lies and deceit, you are my joy happiness.  Being with you makes my life complete.  Love is sacrifice.  Now, you can understand things from my point of view.  It was painful, and I cried writing this article but in some instance I am free.  Love, I believe, is the greatest feeling in this whole world.

By: Rohit Rajpal

Thanks alot to SA (my friend) for proof reading.

Book Review- Master Of The Game By Sidney Sheldon

'Master of the Game' is a critically acclaimed and usually acknowledged as the best among the novels by Sidney Sheldon. It is a plot fabricated as intricately as a spider’s web.

It starts with Kate’s ninetieth birthday and then goes into flashback with Jamie McGregor’s hunt for diamonds and spans over six generations in the lives of the fictional McGregor/Blackwell family. The beginning of the plot is captivating but as the story moves on and the focus gets shifted to the daughter Kate and grand-daughters Eve and Alexandra it somehow loses a bit of its charm. It depicts the life and death, marriage and divorce, pain and suffering of all the characters along with some intimate scenes. The book closes abruptly at Kate’s ninetieth birthday with all her relatives present and even after manipulating, pleasing, loving, killing and hating the people around her for business she still feels she had acted proper.

It indicates the callousness and voracity of the people during the turn of the 18th and 19th centuries. Similar to Sheldon’s other novels the plot is fast moving and story-line is thrilling but it is like the same gift being wrapped differently. Though lacking in a plot that moves you, read it for Sidney Sheldon’s ability to depict a picture with a kind of unique elegance that stays with you for a long time.

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Rohit Rajpal

Success: Hardwork or Luck?

Success: It is because of hard work. Luck has nothing to do with it… Unfortunately it has!

I would like to ask you all, is hard work one of the most important factors when one succeeds? My take- Hard work is not the only key to an individual’s success. However, although one’s effort plays an important role in one’s success, luck is also a very crucial element. The statement that luck has nothing to do with success is not true. In fact, we can see the influence of luck everywhere in our lives.

The obvious influence of luck on people’s success is whether they can meet the good guiders who are helpful in every stage of life. A good guider can help people in getting achievements. In school, the guiders are our teachers. We can benefit a lot from a good teacher, such as knowledge, virtue and custom. When we go to work, the guiders may be our bosses or our colleagues. We can also benefit from a good boss or colleague, like working experience and professional knowledge. Without these good guiders, people need longer time to succeed. 

There are many examples around us but finally, in many cases, luck itself decides the result of matters. We can see this very clearly from a blackjack game. It is very common that a smart person loses to a normal person. Although the smart one has the capacity to win and has taken efforts, it may lose only because of bad luck.

As a conclusion luck is also a very influential factor in one’s success just as hard work is. It not only decides our background of family and the people we meet but also decides the result of some matters directly. People cannot have gain, success etc. without good luck.

- Rohit Rajpal

2(Too) Social 2(To) Social Media!

As the months turn into weeks and weeks turn into days, there is some kind of thinking that has started to take its rounds in my mind. Few more days and I am yet another year older. I will be 22 years on 10 Jan'13. :o

I am not sure if everyone undergoing this phase of their life experience the same, but this time, for me it is getting a bit tough to think that I am indeed getting old.

I have already started thinking "Rohit is getting old"! I now realise that there are younger people than me walking around on Mother Earth. A younger generation and already, there seems to be a generation gap between me and the young folks. Now, edging towards the later part of the glorious period of any individual, as I look back into my past and try to analyse all that has happened in this short span, I realise that there were times when I had been free of any worries or hassles. My only ones used to be to win a fight over my younger brother, getting a brand new PC from my dad, trying to achieve more in online gaming, become the super duper online gaming hero of school. Small things that used to mean a lot to me.

As I look at my long list of friends (Facebook says I have 1054 friends), I stop to wonder if I am really doing the right thing in having so many contacts or acquaintances. It seems as if there is some strange pair of eyes always following you. Now being a Social Media Marketing Executive at OML since past 7 months with social networking sites and the urge to notify your list of anything and everything that you do, I don’t think there is any privacy at all in one's life but yes it’s an essential ingredient for a better taste in modern life.

As I think about the role of friendships that have been a part of me and my life, I start to realise so many things. There have been people who have been selfish, who have not understood me. Those whom I had considered very close have betrayed me and gotten the better of me, just for the fact that I let them to, in the name of 'friendship'.

Some of them whom I have considered close to me haven't been the best as I believed them to be. And also, now I realise that those whom I have lost contacts with, are the ones whom I miss and will miss throughout the rest of my life. Those whom I dint have the slightest idea of getting to know have been the ones who have made me smile when I cried, who always stand behind me in my happiness and tough time.

At times, or rather, always, I wonder why I am into this career. Is this what I always wanted to be? What happened to all my childhood dreams? Those early morning dance practice, those big competitions, those dream of National performances, those funky dance teams, those beautiful ‘Shiamak Davar’ classes, those million memories that were washed ashore in this ocean of life. The dreams that meant so much to me had been brutally murdered and laid to wither. Not that I am not doing good in what I am doing now. But the sense of satisfaction is one that this life lacks in terms of career. Still I love my job, I enjoy it because I am at OML. Something which I always desired to do has been a dream and is going to stay a dream. To pursue the dream at this point of my life is gonna be tough (Not impossible) and sometimes even scary and that's the reason why somethings are better left unaccomplished.

There are so many things now that I have started to ponder upon. Things that have become opinionated, starting to analyse each and everything that I have done and will be doing. I realise there are so many limitations to my life and the way I want to live. I can’t take my own decisions and I can’t lead my own life. But I still have to live it.

I sometimes feel lonely and insecure. Even with the hundreds of loved voices that would always be more than willing to lend an ear to my woes. But the thought of talking to friends over the same things, moaning the same laments is something that I have started hating. As I think of all this and more, I badly want to relive my past, the past that is slowly and steadily drifting away from me. 

I know I have got the best of life (I am working in OML) and also the worst of life, as I try hard to figure the hidden meaning of this precious thing called LIFE. All I can tell myself is 'Everything happens for a reason' as I start gathering those lost little pieces of ME and finding the answer to ‘Nothing… is what I have done in my life’.
Rohit Rajpal

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The sickest of human species come under the category of Rapists for sure! I don’t get it with these weird creatures, there’s nothing human about them (the sick ones, I mean). They’re goddamn parasites that sink their teeth in the actual human species and even manage to make it look good.

Plagues, leprosy, even AIDS may get eradicated by miraculous breakthroughs in science and medicine, but maybe just a nuclear disaster can rid this planet of these parasitic rapists.

Yes, this is the session of ‘Ridiculous Rapists in Delhi this time’.

This time, they played their cards so well, I didn’t even know what hit me, how it hit me, when it hit me (yeah, but I do know why it hit me, its because I’m a freaking soft hearted moron who falls for sad, stupid, fake stories and crocodile tears, and uselessly good at heart) but it hit me, and it hit me good!

I had begun to believe ‘Delhi is Safest’ (successfully) but they needed me to get back on the scene. So, they acted their usual cheap lowlife self, and ruined the life of an innocent girl. I don’t want to make us sound like the complete lifeless losers that we are. But, what I have… we have… done to make OUR Delhi safe?

I was mad as hell, as mad as ‘Loony’ without ‘Toons’, as mad as ‘Dexter’ without ‘Lab’, as mad as Chapell and Ganguly must be at each other, after this news.

ASK Yourself: Is she the only one who was insecure? Are the ‘Rapists’ itself some victim of Moralophobia or some unidentified allergy to morals – or maybe the black hole sucked up their conscience when they were born?

Don’t just stand still, WRITE, DISCUSS & MAKE A CHANGE!

Rohit Rajpal (Team OMLogic)

Originally posted at: http://www.delhiforwomensafety.com/